Too Big for Your Boots Column
Create, succeed…And don’t expect others to be happy for you!
In Australia, we don’t often like to talk about our creations. “Talking yourself up”, “being full of yourself” or “being up yourself” are the ways people will often describe us if we do start to declare any personal successes, unless of course you’re a sporting legend or rock star 🙂
There is a big difference though between narcissism (which is a personality style of being overconfident and superior to others) and healthy self-love and self-acknowledgement.
So why else do so many of us fear creating more in our lives? Is it about the discomfort of receiving the judgements from others? Maybe people will leave our lives? Or they will expect more? Is it that we might not fit in to many of the social circles that involve talking about how terrible things are, or valuing ‘sameness’? Is it that we weren’t supposed to move away from the goals and set points of the ‘tribe’? Actually many of us don’t start creating what we would really like at all because of these things too. So what to do then?
A while ago, when I was very bubbly about creating certain things that filtered out into other areas of my life, I wanted to share this joy and zest…and I wasn’t always met with open arms. Yes, it is a process to not take things personally and keep being you and keep creating…I have also found another process very helpful for me to do on a daily basis and I would like to share it with you.
We talk about an ‘attitude of gratitude’ and there can be so much more than this…
I call it the ‘Daily Boost’ and this can be in the written form or it can be a verbal expression to say out loud in your own personal, quiet space (can be while meditating, while running Bars etc) which acknowledges the things you have created, your courage for showing up, the things you have moved through (it’s easy to forget), and at times saying to yourself what a kind, caring person whom you admire would say to you. I have shed many tears of appreciation doing this for 20-60 minutes and it’s very empowering and freeing.
There are also some amazing facilitators too who are available for any points of ‘stuckness’.
So in sharing this, it doesn’t mean it’s some sort of panacea where we won’t feel discomfort ever again, or we won’t want to take some time away on our own to be anonymous for a while. It’s just I have found this practice helps me to view things in a way that puts the power back in my own hands and makes me feel alive again.
What things help you do the same? Would love to hear from you…