When You Feel Like You Can’t Go On by Dr Dain Heer
There’s been a lot in the media lately about the increase of suicide. Most of us
know at least one person who has talked about ending their lives. Some of us know
someone who actually has. Maybe there have been times in your own life where you
felt like you could not go on.
Whether it’s depression, anxiety, PTSD, grief, divorce, loss of a loved one or any
other challenge that you face, something else is possible. Something else is always
We’ve not been taught to ask questions. We’ve been taught to find answers. Yet,
questions are empowering. From the time we were kids, we were told that answers
were what mattered. Finding the answers, particularly the right answers, would
solve everything. So we tried. We tried to find the right answers, to do the
right thing, to not do the wrong thing… desperately seeking happiness, hope,
possibility, something greater. And, when it didn’t work, when there was still a
sense of lack,of desperation, of sadness, of overwhelm, we concluded,
“Something must be wrong with me” and we started looking for a way out.
What if you’re not wrong? What if that longing for happiness and greater
possibility is actually an awareness that something more is available?
What if you’ve known it all along but no one’s ever told you how to access it?
No matter where you are right now, no matter what choices you have made that have
brought you to this point, today you can begin to create a different possibility.
Whenever you feel like you can’t go on, here are 3 questions you can ask.
Remember, questions empower. Questions open the door to all possibilities. Questions
take you beyond where you are currently functioning from into a space of something
far greater than you’ve ever imagined.
1. What is it you think you can’t handle that you actually could?
As you ask this question, or any question, notice the energy that comes up. We ask a
question with words. Our being responds with energy. Allow yourself to perceive the energy.
When we conclude something, what we conclude has to show up. It’s how our mind
works. Every time we have a conclusion, our mind only allows that which matches the
conclusion to come in. If you have concluded that something or some person or some
situation is bigger than you and that you can’t handle it, you will live in a
constant state of despair. Truth – Nothing is greater than you.
When you ask, “What is it I think I can’t handle that I actually can?” you are
moving past your conclusion. You are opening up the space for you to begin to
perceive the greatness of you. What if you are not nearly as screwed up as you
think you are? What if there is more that’s right about you than you’ve ever acknowledged?
2. Where did you learn you had to have a way out instead of a way of creating a
A question to ask all the time is, “What else is possible?”
You can live your life asking this question. No matter what shows up, play with
asking, “What else is possible? What are the possibilities here that I have not yet
You can also ask, “How does it get any better than this?” Whatever is occurring,
the good, the bad and the ugly, this question opens the door to things getting better.
These two questions can literally change your life. Somewhere, you’ve always known
that something else had to be possible but because everyone around you settled for
average, real and the same, you stopped knowing what you know in an attempt to fit
in which never really worked for you.
The good news is, it’s never too late. There are infinite possibilities available to you
and as you ask these questions you access these possibilities and that allows you to create
something new and something greater; something that actually works for you. If you were
willing to acknowledge this, you would never have to look for a way out again. You would
simply choose and create something different. Yeah… You ARE that powerful.
3. What is the gift of you that if the world lost it the world would be a less
wonderful place because you’re gone?
Whether anyone has ever told you or not, you are a gift to the world. You are a miracle
that has not yet existed on the planet. You are a contribution to everyone around you, to
the planet, to the world. Would you be willing to acknowledge that? Would you be willing
to acknowledge that the world would not be as great without you?
What would it take for you to realise how crucial you are to the possibilities of
Thank you for choosing to be here on the planet. Thank you for seeking more. Thank
you for knowing that something else is possible, even when everyone and everything
around you said it wasn’t. Thank you for not giving up.
You are a gift. You are crucial to the possibilities of the world. The world is a
greater place, just because you are in it. Thank you for your choice and for your
willingness to keep choosing the more that is possible.
The tools of Access Consciousness have helped thousands of people around the world
dealing with everything from severe depression, mental illness, PTSD and so much
Fifteen years ago, Dr Dain Heer, co-creator of Access Consciousness®, felt so
depressed and hopeless that he had set a date for his suicide. However, after one
single session of The Bars®, a gentle therapy that changes brain waves to a relaxed
theta state, Dain changed his entire perspective on life and realised that
everything was okay.
Between September 10th & 16th 2017, in honour of World Suicide Prevention Week,
facilitators and practitioners of Access The Bars® will be hosting events all around the
world and opening their doors for anyone looking for a different possibility, or a spark
of hope, to come and receive a complimentary session. Fifteen years after it saved his
life, Dain hopes these free sessions will ignite optimism, happiness and greatness in
those who have fallen into despair.
“It changed my whole life. This is the experience I would like to share with you all,” he said.
There are FREE bars clinics all over the world this week. You can find the
full list here: https://www.accessconsciousness.com/suicideawareness