“We have these loyalties that say, ‘I won’t have more than you. While I could, I wouldn’t belong, so I will suffer too. I won’t let my relationship work either, I will struggle with finances’,” says Kate. “There are all these ways we try and belong.”
That’s when the true planting and cultivating can begin!
“I asked our seven-year-old the other day, ‘What do you think our family is about Freya?’ She said, ‘Oh mum, our family is about kindness and connecting with other people and helping others.’ And I’m like, ‘Yes! We are on track!’”