How To Avoid The 3 Massive Mistakes Most Single Women
Make That Keeps Them Attracting Dead End Relationships
Are you like many single women, having a desire to be in a healthy
committed relationship with “the one”, but can’t seem to make that happen no matter what?
Does it leave you feeling frustrated and confused about why it’s not
happening for you, while it seems to be happening for everyone else? In
order to make sense of it all, you come up with reasons and excuses for
“All the good ones are taken”
“Men only want younger women”
“The only place to meet men is on the internet and I don’t want to do that”
“I’m too busy, I don’t have time to look for love”
“I’ve missed the boat, it’s too late for me”
“Men don’t want a woman with kids”
“Relationships are too much work, I’d rather be alone”
The important thing that you need to understand is that your present
situation has nothing to do with external factors, but it has everything to do with you. You have created internal barriers that are stopping you from attracting the ideal relationship and those internal barriers may be completely outside of our conscious awareness. You might not realize that despite your desire for love, you may unconsciously be doing things that sabotage the possibilities for love that come your way.
Making conscious the unconscious ways you have been sabotaging yourself is the first step towards getting the relationship that you desire. Another mistake most single women will make is that they focus on the kind of person they want to attract as opposed to the kind of relationship they want…the “Knight in Shining Armour” approach. If I can attract a guy with all these wonderful qualities, he’ll make me happy! Focusing on someone else as the source of our happiness will only lead to disappointment. More importantly, do you possess all of those qualities yourself? What will you be bringing to the relationship? Understanding and clarifying what you value in a relationship is very important since our values are what motivate us. We will either move towards what we want, or away from what we don’t want. For example; I may value trust in a relationship but is that because trust is the foundation of any good relationship or because I don?t want to be betrayed?
If I fear being betrayed (based on past experience), I will most likely attract the very thing that I want to avoid because that’s what I’m focusing on.
According to the Law of Attraction, whatever I put my energy, attention and focus on is what I’ll attract more of. Understanding what you value in a relationship and more importantly, why you value it, will help you get clear about what you truly desire. It will also help you to identify the issues that need to be healed.
The most important factor for why most single women keep attracting dead end relationships is that they have Limiting Core Beliefs and those beliefs are “running the show”. Limiting Core Beliefs such as “I’m not good enough”, “I’m unlovable”, “I’m unworthy”, “I don’t deserve to be loved” are not only painful beliefs to have, but they only lead to disappointment and heartache.
Those beliefs have roots in early childhood and have shaped our identity. For example; if I believe I’m unlovable or not good enough, I may fear rejection. Those false beliefs may prevent me from truly being open to love. I may avoid relationships altogether for fear of being hurt or I may attract exactly what I fear, someone who will reject me. Our conditioning around self-preservation may be so ingrained that oftentimes, even when we are being offered the opportunity for the greatest love of all, we’ll put up barriers to protect ourselves. Identifying and releasing the Limiting Core Beliefs and shifting the old patterns of the past which have kept love out of your life up until now, is the secret that will ensure that you meet “the right one”. You will become magnetic to a healthy committed partnership with someone who brings out the best in you.
If you are interested in learning more about how your Core Limiting Beliefs may be preventing you from finding a deep and genuine love connection, then this free seminar will be of interest to you. Bring a friend!
FINDING “THE RIGHT” MAN….WITH EASE!!!
September 27th, 7:00pm to 9:00pm in Maroochydore
September 28th, 1:30pm to 3:30pm in Glenview
$15.00 at the door or FREE when you pre-register now by calling
Denise 0401 585 159
or Kaye 0409 866 709
Denise Dale is an international counsellor and trainer with over 25 years of experience in empowering people. www.denisedale.com