What’s Blocking You? By Nicki McCosker-Dell

Meet Molly, a beautiful Labrador pup who is now a part of our family!  I have officially entered the wonders and the challenges of puppy land.  As I’ve been slowly training her with the many things she needs to learn to become a friendly, calm and well-behaved companion, I’m learning that having a puppy is much like having a human baby in many ways.  

One easier part of being a mum to a fur-baby is that you can use food and cues to condition a puppy to behave in a certain way (not so easy or recommended for a human baby).  This training/conditioning – to not pee there, not jump up, to not chew on that – is creating unconscious ‘programs’ for Molly that eventually will become unconscious, natural ways of being.

We all carry many unconscious programs that exist in certain cells of our body (or we create patterns that have yet to become programs) and they literally run our lives and become natural ways of being.  They often drive our behaviour, and they very much affect what we attract and don’t attract.  These patterns and programs can essentially block us from getting what we want and what we need from life. They can block prosperity and wellbeing.  If, for example, you have a program that equates to ‘intimacy is not safe’ or ‘I’m overweight and there is nothing I can do to change this’, this will unconsciously lead you to avoid true intimacy at all costs, and hold onto and/or put on weight.

There are very specific and detailed phobia programs, stress programs, trauma programs, poverty programs, pain programs, failure programs, genetic programs, programs that keep you trapped or even ‘cursed’, headache programs and the list goes on.  I work with these kinds of programs in every Creating Balance Session that I do with my clients. My goal in these sessions is to eliminate disempowering programs (like the ones above), and replace these with empowering ones, like “I easily achieve and maintain my healthiest weight” or “intimacy that I choose with people I trust, is beautiful and a gift”.  In these sessions I also simultaneously aim to holistically resolve any other relevant hormonal, energetic, toxicity, unresolved emotion, manifestation, structural, stress, creative, work/life/family imbalances that need addressing and determine what is required by the body/mind/spirit and soul to return to balance.     

What disempowering program is your body running?  What do you attract over and again, or not attract besides your best efforts?   What have you tried to succeed at, but mostly experienced frustration rather than success?  Where are you stuck?  What are your blocks?  Your intuition is patiently waiting to give you insight into the answers to these questions! Take a moment now, find some inner stillness, grab a pen and paper, take a deep breath and let your inner guidance help you to write down; places in your life you feel blocked, aspects that you know are out of balance, themes of finding yourself in similar patterns of negativity, problems you feel trapped by, niggling symptoms you can’t resolve, negative conditioning from your childhood you want to transcend and challenges you have you not been able to fully bounce back from.

Once your list is finished, take another deep breath and take some comfort in knowing that you can do something about these patterns, programs and imbalances that are blocking you from living your best life.  I use my Inner Wisdom Method (a blend of Kinesiology inspired techniques and wisdom, Traditional Chinese Law Of Five Elements, the Meridian, Vessel and Acupuncture system, Food As Medicine, NLP inspired techniques, and much more) with clients when addressing the challenges they are facing.  This method often uncovers blocks, patterns and programs that my clients didn’t know existed.  

It’s impossible to not have programs or patterns that you carry with you through your life.  I encourage you to fully let go of those that aren’t serving you well, or are holding you back or creating distress, and to create new, powerfully empowering ones to move forward with.  Work with me, and I will support you with this exciting and liberating process!   


Nicki McCosker Dell

Nicki is a mentor and counsellor, and the founder of The Inspiration Couch. Nicki has pioneered a modality called, ‘The Inner Wisdom Method’ – which is a fusion of different elements of kinesiology, counselling and psychology. Nicki loves supporting her clients to discover, embrace and follow their own wisdom.

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