Parenting to Break the Cycle of Intergenerational Trauma By Jodee Marques

Aristotle said, “Give me a child until he is 7 and I will show you the man.”

In the first 7 years of life children reach their most important milestones, it is within these developmental years that the “program” is laid down that informs who the child will be, what they believe about themselves and the world around them. 

During this time the child is learning and absorbing from their parents, primary caregivers, and people of influence in their life; not only how to eat, speak and move but also how to behave, react and feel. If a parent is very pessimistic or untrustworthy, the child is imprinted to some level with the same qualities.  

Most of these imprints are stored in the sub/unconscious part of the mind where they will run on autopilot unless the individual discovers them and consciously decides to choose a different belief or behaviour.

This is a very simplified example of Intergenerational Trauma; patterns of thoughts, fears, beliefs, actions, and behaviours that are passed down from generation to generation by adults who parent their children off a sub/unconscious pattern. This is how we see themes of anxiety, addiction, abuse, abandonment etc flow through family lines, that is until someone decides to become conscious and break the chain. 

When we break the chain of intergenerational behaviour and trauma, we heal not only for ourselves but for everyone that has gone before (our ancestors) us and all that follow (our children). This awareness is often very motivating to many people who wish to take a more conscious parenting path. 

In my transformative group coaching program “Cracking the Consciousness Code” I teach on the tools to break through limiting programs and beliefs that have kept us chained to unhealthy and erroneous beliefs of the past by,

Awakening knowledge to become aware of your own unconscious programming & acknowledge how you see yourself, others & the world around you.

Accessing tools & support to consciously witness your thoughts, feelings & behaviour & accept the same in others.

Activating change by consciously choosing who you want to be & how you show up in the world &

Amplifying awareness so that you naturally show up consciously & live with empowerment as you take accountability, release unwanted behaviours & embrace a positive conscious lifestyle. 

Breaking through our own erroneous patterns of behaviour means that we can show up and raise our children in a whole new, conscious, and higher frequency way, setting them up with the best possible program to take forward into their lives.  

If you would like to make some conscious connections in your life join the Conscious Coaching Collection on Facebook for inspiration, tools and programs to break through the chains of your own childhood that may be holding you back today.

For more empowering information join the Conscious Coaching Collection group on Facebook  

Jodee Marques

Jodee Marques is The Holistic Therapist, empowering individuals, couples and families to transform unconscious limitations and live life with passion, power & purpose.

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