What if you expressed how you really feel? By Marion Hutton

Ever felt a sudden wave of rage when someone crossed a line you didn’t even know you had?

That’s not overreacting. That’s your nervous system remembering…

Remembering how you managed anger in the past – through suppression, denial or adopting behaviours and personas that kept anger at bay.

Back off!

When our boundaries are transgressed –especially as empaths—we often feel:

 *Anger (resentment or irritation)

 *Sadness (a sense of being invisible or unworthy)

 *Numbness (avoiding our real feelings)

Instead of setting a boundary, we avoid conflict. We over-explain. We withdraw emotionally. We suppress our resentment and ruminate (for days!) about what we could have said in that moment.

These responses are not random. They’re rehearsed.

Where does this conditioning come from?

When negative emotions were punished as children, we became the “good girl” or “good boy” to receive parental love.

We learned the pain of being seen for the wrong reasons.

Now we fear rejection if we show raw emotion due to our deep human need to belong and be accepted by our tribe or family.

What anger is really about

Anger often masks the loss and sadness we felt when we decided to trade our authentic expression for acceptance. Being invisible was safer than being who we truly are in any moment.

This loss is stored in our body as a negative emotion – anger, sadness, fear hurt, guilt or shame.  

When someone pushes past our energetic edge, if we haven’t cleared the stored negative emotion, we revert to our patterns – avoiding conflict, unable to set or enforce boundaries, or withdrawing completely out of fear of expressing how we REALLY feel.

Sometimes we overreact with an angry outburst – and then the situation becomes about our behaviour instead of the core issue.

The denial is real

If you’re thinking right now, “I don’t have anger issues” congratulations, this message has reached you for a reason. You have kept your anger safely guarded, buried in your body. Negative emotions harm the body by blocking the flow of source energy, preventing us from thinking clearly, eventually affecting us through physical discomfort and dis-ease.

For me, stored anger manifested physically as inflammation – eczema and painful knee, feet and finger joints. The anger disguised underlying hurt from not having certain emotional needs met as a child.

How can I clear stored negative emotions?

All negative emotions are messengers. They alert us to where we are not living our truth. As empaths we are brilliant at seeing into others’ truth. Our mission, should we choose to accept it, is to turn that gift inwards.

In my 6 Week Breakthrough program, I work with clients 1:1 to release negative emotions and break free from the associated limiting thoughts and beliefs our minds make up about ourselves (which are false). When we clear them our authentic, liberated empath finally has the space to fully express.

Learn more: Healing (NTT) – Marion Hutton        

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