Do you give generously to yourself so that you feel loved?  By Jean Sheehan

Women are notorious for being over generous with time, kindness, actions and money with everyone else but themselves. And yet when it comes to being generous with themselves, they can be meagre.

What does it mean to be generous to yourself?

It means being kind and abundant. Imagine you have to go to work but before that time you need to take one child to childcare and the other two children to school. You run around organising the children’s breakfast, their school lunches and quickly make beds which leaves you no time to wash your hair, so you have a bird bath shower and throw on your clothes before running out the door. As you leave, your husband says he has forgotten his wallet and could you drop it off to him on your way to work. All your actions in kindness have been delivered to the family and children and there is nothing left for you.

This mad rush continues at work, and you have just been told that a report has to be handed in to meet a deadline. Your office partner was meant to finish this project with you but at the last minute they asked you to do it so they could go to lunch with their friend. You generously say yes and forgo your break and time to nourish your body. By the end of the day, you feel exhausted, hungry and probably have a slight headache.

At home the acts of kindness and generosity continue as you go in to preparing the children for dinner, baths, homework and story time. By this stage you have managed to quickly swallow a cold party pie down your throat, as that’s all that is left from the kids’ meal and you are feeling absolutely exhausted.

Your husband returns home late and asks for his pants to be ironed for the next day as he leaves for a flight very early the next morning. You are thinking to yourself, ‘I have nothing left to give and I just want to sit with a cup of tea’. You love your family very much but by now you are mentally, physically and emotionally exhausted. It’s like you are a balloon that has no air left. All this giving and generosity has burnt you out.

By this stage your body is going to feel unwell, and you may even become resentful towards others. Your life will be perceived as stressful, with no time and possibly you see no hope in the future. Your cognitive thought process to see the best in things may be non-existent. It is critical to your health to be generous to you!

So how can you be generous to yourself?

The first step to giving generously to yourself is notice what you are doing and why? Check in to your belief systems of why you are being overly generous to others and not you. Is it a sign of feeling loved and accepted? Is it wanting to overcome guilt? Then it is a matter of showing a readiness to give more to you than is necessary or expected. It’s about having time and things more plentiful for you, as this will allow you to feel fulfilled, nurtured and definitely give you more energy. Then you can give to others in a way where it won’t exhaust you.

Here are 5 Tips in being generous to yourself

  • Set boundaries – It is important to set your own limits of what you can and can’t, will and won’t do with your family, friends and work. These boundaries will create a guideline for you to know when you need to replenish you.
  • Say no – when saying no it does not mean you are offending others, it is just saying no to that task, situation or experience. This allows you to fill yourself up in ways that makes you feel abundant rather than empty.
  • Permission – give yourself permission to take and receive, give yourself permission to feel guilt free, give yourself permission to set boundaries and say no.
  • Time – set boundaries with time. Ensure you have time for you … and only you, doing the things that you love. That might be reading a book, soaking in the bath with no children …. There is 24 hours a day and at least 12 of those hours should be for you
  • Rest –This is the most generous thing you can do for yourself. Resting can be knitting, walking along the beach, having a catnap or even having a cuppa with a friend. Generosity on this level is abundant to your core being.

Remember generosity commences with you first! When you do this, your mind and body will thank you. Life will be fulfilling and easy. Here is to your plentiful life.

And for those that want to know more, become a Medical Intuitive Practitioner with me and learn the ancient healing of Mystery School please visit:

Jean Sheehan

Jean Sheehan is a 6-time Amazon Best Selling Author an award winning and internationally recognised Medical Intuitive known as the ‘Walking Talking MRI’ who travels the world teaching The Secret Codes to Success®.

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