This year I have taken some big steps to get various parts of my life feeling more secure and stable. It was time.
My financial management has always been an issue, (somewhat of a hidden issue until 10 years ago!) but I am now putting it all in order and taking full responsibility for what has been, and what is yet to come.
Relationships are on my mind again this year and I am also doing the work here to find personal and emotional stability and new perspectives for longer lasting and more fulfilling partnership.
With these focus areas, I have been thinking a lot about the mistakes I have made with my life in the past too! The dumb things I have done with my money, the scarcity mindset, the addictions that had me almost give up on life, the relationships I ruined, the irresponsible decisions that have cost me a house deposit and more…twice!
For myself along with many of my clients, these past regrets can leave life stagnant, with full focus on what was done wrong along with the guilt, the emotions, the pain and the self-berating.
The truth is though, what happened then is not who you are now. And if you are in your 40’s. 50’s or 60’s its never too late to start again and do things differently!
Yes, the head start years ago in any area of life could have you feeling more stable or progressed in your life in certain ways but if you let the past dictate the future then you will remain in regret and your life will stay on the hamster wheel. So why not leave it behind and ask yourself what it is that you want in your life right now?
Here are 3 things to ask yourself to find peace with the past:
- Stop the guilt!
Is feeling guilty or beating yourself up about what has happened in the past helping you right now? Ok, it happened, what now? Finding peace with the past means accepting what happened and forgiving yourself.
Grab a piece of paper right now and ask- what am I still hanging on to about the past that I feel guilty about and could have done better?
Write down at least 5 things that come to mind and then you at least have the actual events or decisions that you regret and can start the acceptance and forgiveness process with yourself.
- What’s next?
After you have found the acceptance and forgiveness for these past issues, what can you now do or be that will produce a different result in your life?
Choose one area of life you are amending and say this- I accept this happened in the past but what can I do that is different and will produce the result I desire now (better decision, better management, better emotional responses etc)?
- Celebrate yourself!
Take a moment to be proud of the momentum these actions will start in your life, now. High five yourself!
Now ask yourself this- Am I going to allow the past to dictate my todays?
Hopefully the answer is a resounding no!
It is never too late to amend an area of life that past decisions or bad habits have created. Will you take that step forward today? How would you feel if you found peace with your past? I am happy to hop on a 20 minute call with you to help with a sticky past regret you cant seem to shift! Book a complimentary time here: YES PLEASE
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