Jacq KoloskiWhen did I stop having fun and allowing myself to feel and have joy in my life? I think it was when I decided that I have some goals I wanted to achieve and my focus became that. Having goals is great but not at the cost of fun and joy in your life.
You see, I became so focused on achieving some financial goals that I stopped doing and choosing things that were fun and joyful for me to achieve this goal. Now setting and having goals and working towards them is great but not at a cost that it feels like you are giving up something else in order to achieve your goals.
I tend to get very focused on achieving my goals but I can also go into it is this or that. I will choose one thing over another and I tend to go extreme. I’ll give you an example: I decided that I had some financial goals I wanted to achieve so I looked at my life and thought, what can I cut out or cut down on. Not spending money on a takeaway coffee, or lunches at work or any of the incidental purchases that can add up to a lot of money and I am ok with not purchasing these items. I’d rather choose to spend money on adventures, experiences, clothing etc. What I did though, was I stopped spending money on everything other than the necessities. My savings went up but my fun and joy went down, to non-existent. I was limiting myself and choosing from lack. This was certainly not fun.
Why did I do this? I became aware that it was from some deep seated beliefs about life, money, having fun and so many other beliefs about life and making choices. I got sucked into believing that in order to have financial wealth or savings I needed to give up the things that I enjoyed. Crazy right. Another belief that came up very strongly for me was not spending money on myself. I’m not worthy to spend money on. I’m being selfish if I spend money on me. You don’t waste money on buying stuff you don’t need. Save your money for a rainy day. As long as you have enough for bills and the basics, that’s all you need. I can hear the programming now and when I hear it I know it sounds crazy but it’s there. We all have these beliefs and programs running that can be so deep within us that we don’t even realise that these are what drive us and what we make choices from. These deep beliefs are what we use to build and create our lives from. These beliefs can rob us of fun and joy in our lives. Is it time for you to bring back fun and joy?
Why do I share this with you? I had a huge awakening recently where all of this came to the surface and looked me in the face, almost mocking me to do something with all this. What will you choose? Will you choose your current old beliefs about money and allow your life to be joyless or will you choose fun and joy. It was at this moment that I could feel something shift within myself and a lightness came into my world. It was at this moment I realised that I had left fun and joy on the curb, waiting for me to pay attention to them. My heart felt lighter and I could feel joy start to fill my heart as in that moment I made a choice to not focus on what I thought was lacking or not having enough and just choose fun and joy. I’m not saying put yourself in debt or go crazy but it was a loosening of choosing from a space of I have enough and not, but I need to pay this or that first and save the rest. I gave myself permission to choose adventures or experiences that bring me fun and joy without fear of not having enough. Deep breath and release.
- Where have you stopped choosing fun and joy?
- What old beliefs are you becoming aware of that drive the choices you are making?
- What is one belief that you can start to look at and make some changes?
We all have beliefs and programs that are running and that is what we use to choose how we create our lives. As we evolve and become more conscious our old beliefs and programs need to be looked at, acknowledged and let go of. They hold us back from creating a life we know is possible. They hold us back from choosing different for fear of what if’s. If you have been making choices that are not fun or joyful for you, maybe it is time to look at what the belief is behind that. You can make the changes you want to. You have what it takes. You’ve got this.
If you are wanting mentoring and guidance to step onto the path you know is waiting for you, reach out. I’d love to support you on your journey. You can connect with me at: Jacqueline.training@gmail.com
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Jacq 💜
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