NEW YEAR – NEW AWARENESS AROUND SELF, SEX & RELATIONSHIP by Pauline Ryeland, Sex and Intimacy Expert

What are you aware of in your relationship to yourself, your sexuality or a partner that you are choosing to ignore…still?

How long are you going to pretend that everything is ok and not take action?  Burying your head in the sand and continuing to ignore whatever it is and trusting the Universe will somehow sort it out.

Unfortunately, that’s not how the Universe works.

Most times we have to step out of being at “effect”, being in blame and victim mentality and move into being at “cause” which is taking responsibility for your situation and taking action to change what is not working in your life.

If you’re in a relationship, is there an elephant in the room?  Is there something that is not really working or there’s a problem in the bedroom that you are continually ignoring?

When something is not acknowledged in a relationship because you don’t communicate or talk with your partner, it creates this giant energy between you which actually creates an even bigger disconnect than is already currently there.

Do you really want to drag this into another year?  The reality is, nothing will change if you choose to ignore it. 

The signs are there, what’s the worst thing that can happen and what’s the best thing that can happen?

The scariest part can be having that conversation when in a relationship.  However, I can guarantee if you’re feeling it, so are they.  Without great communication how can your relationship grow and move past whatever it is that’s in the way?

If you know you’ve buried your libido, how long do you think a relationship without sexual intimacy is really going to last?

The three main keys to a great relationship are communication, intimacy and sex.  Without great communication you cannot develop deep intimacy and without those two things you can’t have great, amazing, mind blowing sex. 

Sure, you can have sex; however it’s usually disconnected, no care, no kindness there and its literally about just getting your own self-gratification instead of coming together in union.

If you’re single, what is your awareness around moving into another year.  Are you longing for a partner?  Are there some things you need to really look at within yourself to work on, to clear so that you can bring in the partner you desire?

How often do we have an awareness and choose to ignore it?  Doesn’t the time come where you literally have no choice other than to face it, look at it and resolve it, so it’s no longer a problem, it’s no longer a reality in your life?

This year has been a crazy ride for many and I suspect it’s still going to continue for a bit longer.  

Moving into a New Year means we can assess where we are at in life, in our self-love, our sexuality, intimacy, our relationships and look at what changes we can bring.

It’s time to release all the things that are no longer serving you so that you can live your best year yet, moving forward, growing, evolving and fully stepping into all that you can be.

Book a session with Pauline or reserve your place at her next couple’s retreat:

Pauline Ryeland

Pauline Ryeland, Intimacy Whisperer®, is a Sex, Libido, Relationship Coach & Educator, working with individuals & couples experiencing challenges with sex and relationships.

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