Last month I covered how I work and also the area of integrating your parents for a more fulfilling life without actually taking on their burdens. This month, we discuss what the effects are if we don’t ‘integrate our parents’ and what they have to teach us.
When we reject our parents there are ripple effects in our life, including:
- Not being able to be satisfied in life, no matter what;
- Lack of confidence and worthiness and an inability to love ourselves just as we are;
- Missing the strength to navigate difficulties and challenges;
- Unable to manifest;
- Feeling empty;
- Unfulfilled relationships (if we cannot receive from our mother, we cannot receive from anyone else truly; if we cannot receive our father, we cannot receive strength for success or happiness);
- Difficulty in trusting others;
- Inability to create and build intimate relationships with long lasting and connected bonds;
- Generally, you may feel unsafe
I have travelled great lengths to distance myself physically from my parents, as well as mentally and emotionally, and no matter how much I keep my distance one thing is for sure “your parents are always with you”. Your pain, your disappointment, your outrage, your sadness all of it, still keeps you connected to them. They will always be your parents.
Transforming your inner images of your parents and the emotions and expectations that come up around them, will be one of the most profound experiences you can do in your lifetime. No matter how difficult it is for you, you must know that your parents are the right ones for you.
When you integrate both your Mum and your Dad into your heart, you open the possibility for you to be both loved and able to receive love from others – and also to be able to love and give love to others.
How can you start healing and integrating your Parents?
You will have to do some exploring to find the right doorway for you to begin. Just one step at a time is the key. You could begin by opening to explore any of the following –
- Acknowledging them for being who they are;
- Seeing yourself as the child and the small one, and them as your parents “the big ones”;
- Respecting them and their fate;
- Taking what came to you from them (no matter how small receive what is there);
- Letting go of expectations of how they should love you;
- Leaving the burdens and responsibilities that are theirs with them;
- Seeing them together in your heart;
- Seeing them as the right ones for you.
If you would like to courageously step on to this path visit Rebecca-Lee’s website at www.rebecca-lee.com to see about private ‘Unlock Your Love Blocks’ sessions with her or her coaches, or enrol in one of the upcoming training modules to enter into this deep soul work.