Vikki SpellerAs parents, we want our children to grow up feeling confident, secure and happy in who they are. Which can be challenging at times, considering many live in a world filled with social media, comparisons and pressure to meet unrealistic standards. Therefore, it’s essential to teach our children that true self-worth comes from within.
Self-love isn’t just about feeling good, it’s about accepting ourselves fully, embracing our uniqueness and treating ourselves with kindness. By fostering self-love from an early age, we equip our children with the tools to navigate life’s ups and downs with resilience, confidence and a strong sense of self.
Why Self-Love Matters in Childhood
Children who learn self-love develop:
- Stronger self-esteem – They believe in their abilities and value themselves beyond achievements or appearances.
- Emotional resilience – They are better equipped to handle setbacks and challenges without internalising negative self-talk.
- Healthy relationships – When children respect and accept themselves, they naturally build healthier connections with others.
- A growth mindset – They embrace learning and view mistakes as opportunities rather than failures.
Teaching self-love early ensures that children carry these positive beliefs into adulthood, shaping the way they view themselves and the world.
How to Teach Self-Love and Self-Acceptance
1. Model Self-Love
Children learn by watching us. If they see us speaking kindly to ourselves, embracing our imperfections, and prioritising self-care, they will naturally adopt similar habits. Be mindful of how you talk about yourself in front of your child as your words influence their inner voice.
2. Encourage Positive Self-Talk
Help your child replace negative thoughts with affirmations. Simple phrases like “I am enough,” “I am loved,” or “I am special just as I am” can reshape their mindset and build confidence.
3. Celebrate Their Uniqueness
Every child is different and that’s what makes them special. Instead of comparing them to others, celebrate their unique talents, interests and personality traits. Encourage them to express themselves freely without fear of judgment.
4. Teach Mindfulness and Gratitude
Mindfulness practices, such as deep breathing or body awareness, help children connect with themselves and regulate emotions. Gratitude exercises, like naming three things they love about themselves each day, reinforce self-appreciation.
5. Read Stories That Promote Self-Love
Books are a wonderful way to nurture self-acceptance in children. That’s why I wrote Finding the Magic of Love, a heartfelt story designed to help children embrace their uniqueness, open up conversations, and see the magic within themselves. With bonus mindfulness exercises, this book was created to encourage little ones to develop a strong foundation of self-love in a fun and engaging way.
Teaching children self-love doesn’t require grand gestures as it’s found in the simple, everyday moments. From the way we speak to them to how we model self-kindness; these small acts build a foundation of confidence and self-acceptance. When we create an environment where love, kindness and authenticity thrive, our children will naturally grow into individuals who embrace themselves fully and shine their unique light into the world.
And as you nurture self-love in your child, don’t forget to extend that same kindness to yourself. You deserve the same patience, compassion and acceptance that you so lovingly teach them.
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With love and blessings,
Vikki Speller
Intuitive Women’s Coach – Meditation and Mindfulness Practitioner – Holistic Counsellor
Best-Selling Author – International Speaker
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