I would like to introduce you to Simon and Rebecca; they’re a typical Australian couple with a house, two kids and jobs.
They’ve been together for 20 years and have endured it all; the ups, downs, highs and the lows.
However, with time Rebecca and Simon slowly drifted apart. The simplest of things would irrationally irritate the other, while resentment festered over past decisions. Tensions, blaming and arguments were becoming commonplace in the home.
Rebecca felt unhappy and disconnected from Simon. She had left the town she loved, a successful business she had built from scratch and all her friends, for Simon’s new job.
She resorted to the familiar and worked to build a new business and a new life for herself and the kids, while Simon worked hard in his new position to provide for his family. The stress of his job saw Simon over-extend himself and lose touch with his family.
When Simon and Rebecca sought me out, Rebecca wanted to fix their marriage but was concerned that the relationship was unsalvageable and that perhaps she should move on; Simon’s energies were depleted; he didn’t know how or what had happened, only that he loved Rebecca and wanted to find a way. Communication was strained, little connection remained and intimacy… well that was entirely off the table.
I worked with Simon and Rebecca independently at first to remove their stressors, fears, concerns and assist them in re-discovering their vitality and energy and found a sense of hope for themselves and their relationship, as the daily grind had them down over the years. During these sessions, I used different therapies, strategies and PSYCH-K®.
Read on to find out how their marriage turned out!
Here are some of the epic strategies that worked for Simon and Rebecca;
1. Compelling Relationship Vision
Without a vision, the people perish (Proverbs 29:18). Nothing could be more accurate in relationships. Common goals or a shared vision are something you collectively work towards. Perhaps it’s to save for the dream house or go on that holiday. Big or small it doesn’t matter, sharing common goals, hobbies or dreams is one way to stay connected.
Further, create a compelling relationship vision by writing down exactly how each of you would like your relationship to be (from a place of love). For example, your ideal relationship might include a kiss and a cuddle each morning from your partner.
Your wording is essential, and the small details matter, so pay close attention to them.
2. Conscious Communication
Your wants and needs matter. Let me repeat this: your wants and needs in a relationship matter. It is imperative to lovingly; communicate exactly what you want and need from the relationship.
3. Appreciation & Connection
Vocalise what you love and appreciate in your partner; this goes a long way! Tell your lover about the things you love about them and be specific; the more detailed, the better.
These strategies and others saw Simon and Rebecca’s relationship transform from two people who were governed by resentment and struggled to make eye contact, to it all melting away.
Their connection and communication deepened and their passion and intimacy was enhanced like never before.
Rebecca and Simon’s testimony was that they experienced a deep connection that they had not experienced in decades. Not only was their marriage revitalised but they are actually happy, naturally affectionate and have proven strategies to use whenever challenges arise.
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