Wendy RosenfeldtHow much we can experience love depends on how we feel inside. If we are stressed and tired or feeling depressed, we fail to appreciate the people who are close to us, let alone all the people that we encounter in our day to day lives. When we are in a happier state or feeling good about our lives, we tend to feel more love and warmth for all those around us.
Before we gain a state of self-realisation, our relationships to some extent, are based on what we can get out of them. Even the relationships that involve caring for other people are fulfilling an underlying need to be useful or to feel good about yourself. This is not a criticism; it’s natural that before we are fully enlightened our relationships are fulfilling some individual need or desire.
Good relationships are built on the ability to desire what is best for the other person even if it may not be what you want for yourself. For example, letting a partner spend time with their family instead of you or supporting a child to move away to have a better opportunity for study or career even though you will miss them and would prefer to have them close.
When our development evolves from just identifying with the individual personality or ego and expands to include the status of cosmic life, naturally our desires expand to become what is best for other people and the environment.
It’s not just on the intellectual level, it’s a very real experience. As our consciousness expands and our awareness grows, we spontaneously begin to appreciate everything and everyone for its highest value. When we are feeling great, the world takes on a celestial glow, we appreciate the vibrancy of the trees and nature, smell the fragrance of the flowers, or cut grass, and savour the delicious tastes and textures of our food. In contrast, when we have heard some upsetting news or feel sick, we don’t notice or pay attention to anything.
When we are happy and relaxed, we see the people around us in a better light. The more we see the good in someone, the more we love them, the more we love them, the more we see the good in them. When we put positive attention on the good in other people, we help this quality to blossom. In the same way if we are always expecting someone to do the wrong thing, we are on the lookout for their negative attributes.
People devote their lives to finding love and happiness but unless you derive this fulfilment from within, the happiness will be elusive or fleeting at best. Through the practice of Transcendental Meditation, we access the cosmic level of the self, or in scientific terms the unified field or quantum level. This is a level of life where everything is connected. It’s a very practical experience; we enliven the unity from within while dissolving the build-up of stress and tiredness to come out feeling more refreshed and peaceful. This is scientifically validated by measurements of increased serotonin levels in people who practice TM. Serotonin is associated with self- esteem and increase of new brain connections. This feel-good biochemical has a carryover effect on how we behave with everyone around us. So, to improve your relationships you need to start with finding happiness within.
To connect with Wendy email: Wendy.rosenfeldt@tm.org.au
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