From the most discerning onlooker’s perspective, I’d had it all. Working my way ‘up’ to the coveted position of partner in a lifestyle legal practice, I had carefully collected all the hallmarks of success and sculpted life so that only the most enviable elements featured on my social media pages.
The shiny existence I had fabricated began to show hairline cracks. As I audited each area of my life, it dawned on me that I was fixated on possessing elements of life that no longer represented a state of satisfaction to me.
I was imprisoned by my ideas of success.
This personal audit opened my mind to the question of who I would be if I was no longer who I thought I should be?
We hold onto patterns and belief systems because they are familiar. I call them our internal legal systems. Those systems bind us tightly to a false reality, as they come complete with rules that once kept us metaphorically ‘safe and loved’ in our childhood environment. They are so deeply entrenched in our psyche that for the most part they are unconscious.
Yet those unconscious rules become our identity. My personal legal system came complete with commandments like: ‘Be smart’. ‘Don’t get angry’. ‘Be a good girl’ … and my personal favourite ‘don’t wear red lipstick or god won’t love you’.
This is why we resist change.
To make life changes requires you dissolve the idea of who you think you should be. This identity shift, to most people, is a terrifying prospect. Yet, the rules you hold onto result in the creation of choice limiting resistances, which block your personal energetic flow.
I wondered what the breaking apart of my former identity would reveal about me. Who would I be? Would anyone love me?
I was projecting a future from a place of fear.
How I changed it up…
The first step I took was to radically accept that I had created everything within my reality. When I understood that I had created everything in my life solely for my experience of it, I felt a sense of relief. I then became still and energetically expanded myself until I fully felt my creation.
This arose from a sense that you cannot move through an experience by pushing it away. Pushing away is resistance. Accepting where you are in every moment helps you feel your experience fully so it can be released and moved on. You are energy and this is just physics at work.
I then needed to energetically let go of absolutely everything from a place of positivity. Do not try to judge what that will look like. Judgement requires your thinking mind to get involved again. Just sincerely let it all go.
I let go of the effects of the patterning that held me to an identity labelled ‘successful human’, so I could then allow a more authentic identity to form.
Feel into the future.
This part is not so easy to explain briefly, given there really is no future.
From the present moment, most of us imagine our future from a place of desire. ‘if I was rich, better looking, smarter, etc…’. Those are fear-based thought projections which move from an idea that you are lacking something.
The reality is, in an abundant universe, there is no lack. It is all one energy. To feel a ‘future’ from a present sensation of freedom and satisfaction, you align with a frequency that will resonate with and animate that physical reality for you.
I know this, because way back I thought I knew what my life ‘should’ look like. I created a life in fear of not being valued unless I did what others thought was valuable. My effort to control my future, with what I thought I knew about a life of success led only to a fear-based outcome: dissatisfaction.
When I used my senses to feel into the positive frequency of peace and satisfaction, that was exactly what I created. It is from a sensory place that all shifts in reality are created. You cannot think your way into sustainable change. You must feel it.
Virginia sees everything as energy. Whilst she insists there really are no problems, she assists others in solving perceived problems by simply showing how shifting energetic frequencies changes lives. She offers personal consultations and conducts Meetups. For details, send her an email: firstname.lastname@example.org or visit the website www.colaw.love.