Claire and Ben were feeling more and more like housemates than lovers by the day.
They had such busy lives that they were often zooming past each other in one direction or another.
School, childcare, sports or work.
The stress, tension and annoyance with each other was growing.
They stopped asking how are you?
They stopped showing affection.
They started fighting more.
Claire and Ben got to a point where they knew something had to change.
They started to stop and connect on a daily basis.
After a while they found that they were more relaxed, talking more and actively planning time out together.
Sometimes they still forgot but they kept coming back to what was working for them and are experiencing more peace and flow in their relationship as a result.
How can you reconnect with your partner (when time is limited):
- Take 60 seconds each day and share a hug and kiss and genuinely ask ‘how are you?’ and listen to your partner’s answers.
- Maintain Eye contact while speaking to one another (this is very important).
- Set time aside for one another, plan a weekly date night even if it is just while the kids are asleep and share how you are feeling and what’s going on for you, your hopes and dreams or funny anecdotes from work that day. This can be half an hour or an hour totally up to you.
- Get support to reconnect you both, if you have been disconnected it can be hard to find ways to deeply reconnect. This is an empowering and positive step to create a loving relationship. To get support check out this link for more information.
These are simple and quick steps but often in the busyness of life we forget to do the small things and the SMALL THINGS MATTER in relationships.
Take proactive action towards your relationship as they say the prevention is better than the cure.
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