Have you ever stopped to reflect upon where the days, months and years have gone? I have and currently am doing this as we approach the end of 2023. What a year! As I reflect and look back on the year, I see how much I have changed, how much I have done and how much I have procrastinated. I would have days where I would be scrolling through social media and before I knew it two hours would have passed. Where did that go? It went so fast. I remember some of these moments and while in the moment I would think to myself: “Jacqueline, you really need to get off here. There are so many other things you could be doing.”
But I wouldn’t, and time kept going, even if I chose to stand still and bury myself in the social media world or something else that was irrelevant instead of spending my time and energy focused on creating the changes I thought I really wanted in life. There can be many factors that stop us from acting on and making the changes we want. It all takes time as we look within to see what is really going on for us. Often there will be an underlying belief that is running and this can stop us from choosing differently, or taking steps towards achieving our goals and desires.
Every change we wish to make in our life takes time. Each step taken over a period of time creates the change we want. Many of us talk about setting New Year’s resolutions or setting an intention for the year. It’s all exciting when the new year comes and we have a whole year to look forward to creating a life we love. Do we though? Do we actually make changes and create a life we love or do we just keep doing same same and then get to the end of the year and berate ourselves for not having done the thing that we said we would at the beginning of the year?
Time will keep going no matter what we do or don’t do. I’ve often found when working with clients that they choose to do too much at the start of each year. They choose huge goals or choose all areas of their life to change and after a while the excitement wears off, as they realise that their goal or intention is too huge. They haven’t taken the time to break that huge goal down into practical manageable steps. You don’t need to achieve it all in that first month. Break your goal into manageable steps. You still have other commitments and having manageable steps to achieve keeps it real and when you do achieve each step, it can bring with it a sense of accomplishment.
At the end of that year when you reflect back you can see how far you have come. You just never know that what you start today will lead to something greater than you realise. It’s not until you look back that you will see the accumulation of each tiny step taken.
This reminds me of something my mum shared with me many years ago. Mum has six grandchildren and each fortnight she would put money aside for each grandchild. She has an envelope for each one. She said it’s not much each fortnight but at the end of the year it would be a nice sum of money for a Christmas present for each grandchild. This is something she would start at the beginning of each year and as time went on and she took action each fortnight she could see how each tiny step compounded created more. Time was still going to continue whether she chose to put the money aside or not. By her choosing to take action each fortnight, as time went on she achieved her goal.
Some questions for you to reflect on as the year comes to a close:
- What is one goal or dream that you took action on this year and are now seeing the results of that?
- What was a goal or dream you set at the beginning of the year but took no action on? Do you still want this? If so, what do you need to do to start to bring it to fruition? Break it down into practical realistic steps.
- Make a list of the things you achieved this year. Celebrate you and how far you have come. Time happened and you kept moving and taking action.
- What would you like to achieve or complete before the year finishes? Be real with this.
As I reflect on my year, I see how much I really have achieved. I never think it is enough. It’s when I stop and acknowledge myself and my achievements that I realise what an amazing, enriched year it has been. Well several years really. I feel like I have completed a cycle of sorts. You see, seven years ago I started writing again. I have discovered that I love writing. I started writing what has now become: Jacqs Musings. These are my personal thoughts, reflections and learnings of myself and my life and how I have changed. I had no idea what it would lead to. I just kept writing and sharing as I felt the need. Here it is now seven years later and I am about to be a published author. Jacq’s Musings is a compilation of my journal entries as I learnt to love myself, heal and discover who I am. Time will continue on, that is a guarantee. I know when I reflect on my life, I want to see that I at least tried and took action towards achieving and creating a life that I love.
As the new year gets ready to open its door and invite us in, ask yourself: How do I want my 2024 to be?
- What goal or dream do I want to achieve?
- What do I need to do to achieve this?
- Break it down into practical actionable steps. Be real. keep it simple.
- Choose it because it brings you joy.
- Keep taking steps towards your dream or goal. Time will continue on anyway.
- Be kind, loving and patient with yourself. It all takes time.
You can also have a read of my other articles on the Holistic Bliss website which also give you more tools, questions and strategies.
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With Love and Gratitude