SEX AND AGEING by Pauline Ryeland

Yes, there are still old people that love to have sex! 

When you read that or think about that, how does it make you feel?

We have been conditioned to think that old people don’t have sex and the thought of that, let alone your parents (if they’re still alive), might be having sex is one that brings repulsion to a lot of people.

Why is that?

Sex is the most natural thing on this earth – I mean, we wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for sex!

I was recently at two expos and I’m always chatting to people and asking how their sex lives are.  It absolutely astounded me, how many women just shook their hand and said “oh no, I’m past that now” or “I’m not interested, or “I’m single”.

There are many stories you’ve possibly made up to convince yourself that you’re ok with this. However, I know for a fact if we dig deeper, there are a whole lot of other issues that are below the surface, that’s creating these stories as real.

Sexual energy is our life force, so if we aren’t having sex, then we may as well be dead! 

You don’t need a partner for sex, although it’s definitely a whole lot nicer with someone, it’s also empowering to meet your own needs and claim your sexuality, no matter how old you are.

We have been conditioned that as a woman, once you hit menopause, that’s it.  Everything dries up and you’re not going to want to have sex anymore.

We have also been conditioned that once you get to a certain age as a man, if you lose erections, well that’s just a normal part of the ageing process.

Just because we are ageing does not necessarily mean we don’t want to have sex or continue with intimacy.  For some people it can become a little more challenging, with a variety of health issues, however there are always things that you can do to improve these areas.

For a lot of women, when they go through menopause, their estrogen drops and as they don’t produce it anymore, this can affect the libido to becoming non-existent.  However, there are many solutions for firing up that libido and working with the dryness with natural products that can increase elasticity and promote collagen growth in the vaginal area.

Sometimes, when dryness occurs, it can create internal pain and that will definitely switch off the libido.  Again, there are solutions to this problem and I would suggest you seek out some help from someone like myself who is a Sexological Body Worker and has worked with hundreds of women over the years and reversed that pain.

The oldest couple I’ve worked with was 80 years of age.  I met them at Sexpo, both walking around with their walking frames.  They came to every one of my talks.  I ended up doing some work with them both around improving their sexual experiences together and to work in around their specific health challenges.

As the saying goes…where there’s a will there’s a way.

So, don’t let out-dated beliefs that don’t even belong to you, guide how you live your life as you age, and more specifically stop you from having an active sex life.

https://paulineryeland.com/

Pauline Ryeland

Pauline Ryeland, Intimacy Whisperer®, is a Sex, Libido, Relationship Coach & Educator, working with individuals & couples experiencing challenges with sex and relationships.

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