To Wallow or to Pivot? By Davina Herbert

Life is happening around us all the time.  Sometimes we feel fantastic and energised.  Other times we feel exhausted and drained.  It’s easy to move forward in life when events energise us.  How do we go with the flow when life experiences drain us?  Ms Doll, my mare, taught me lots of wisdom in the years that we had together.  I remember one time I went to see her and I was upset about my Dad’s failing health.  She let me cry on her shoulder for a certain period.  Then she moved off – telling me that I needed to keep moving and stop wallowing.  Some people who have heard this story thought that it seemed harsh on Ms Doll’s part.  It was, however, it was exactly what I needed to hear.  I had been absorbed in my story of upset and gloom.  This was not a productive space in which to remain.  It was not honouring of Dad and it was not helpful to me.  I was then and continue to be, grateful to Doll for her intuitive ‘read’ of what I needed to get me going again.

Our animal friends can provide us with so much wisdom and support if we will let them.  Doll was an incredible teacher to me over the years that we had together.  What Doll was teaching me in this situation was about how to pivot instead of wallowing.  I could have stayed stuck in the gloom of what was going on.  There was an alternative.  That was to look at the bigger picture and see what was happening as part of Dad’s journey through life.  I wished for him to have a journey that was free of pain and suffering.  However it was not my journey.  All that I could do was be there for Dad and love him.  I am not saying that it was easy.  I had many more days that I went into the unfairness of the situation.  The secret was not avoiding the pit of gloom.  It was about how long I spent there.  It was also important not to give myself a ‘hard’ time for having times when I wallowed.  We always have choices about how we see life and how we act/react to situations.  It was sad to see what was going on for Dad and his body.  But to see him as a ‘victim’ to life, felt like it was not honouring of him and his being.

If you would like to know more about how to pivot a situation and the life tools that Doll taught me, I have a 3 month course that starts on the 20th of May.  We will explore different themes each month all based on my book “Dancing with Doll – Life and Leadership Lessons Learnt through Accessing Animal Wisdom”. 

I also do private sessions with people over Zoom and face to face sessions for clients in the Northern Suburbs of Brisbane and Moreton Bay areas.  In these sessions we get to unpack the wisdom that our animal friends have to offer us and how this can enrich our lives.  I look forward to connecting with you and your beloved animal companions!

Davina Herbert

Davina is the pioneer of Pet Energy Therapy and she uses her communication skills and an holistic approach to help restore balance for all your family- including the animal family members.

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