WHAT’S BREATH GOT TO DO WITH HAVING A GOOD TIME? by Pauline Ryeland

We all know how important breathing is.  If we didn’t breathe we wouldn’t be alive for starters.

When we are in fear or flight mode, our anxiety levels go up, as does our breath increase along with our heart beat.

When we are relaxed and in a calm state, our breathing softens and slows down as does our heart beat.

So how does breathing affect how we are having a good time, when we are becoming sexually engaged.

It actually affects us more than we know.

The autonomic nervous system activates the sympathetic and para-sympathetic part of the brain.  The sympathetic is when we are in flight and flee mode and the para-sympathetic is when we are relaxed.

So if you relate that to having an orgasm, we are always going to be in the sympathetic state because we are moving towards orgasm and therefore the parasympathetic part of the autonomic nervous system gets left behind.

When we use breath with intention to specifically activate both parts of the autonomic nervous system, it can bring about very different results in our pleasure pursuits.  It enables us to get out of our heads and into our bodies which we need to do more and more.

Sex is not a check list, it’s not I’ve done this so now it’s my turn to receive that or do that.  It’s not how many orgasms she’s had so now I can go.  When we’re doing that we’re in our head.  Sex is an energy and the more in our bodies we can be, the more in flow we can be and the more we can experience.

Think for a moment how you orgasm.

Do you hold your breath, tense your body?  When we do that it stops the sexual energy from flowing though our body with ease.  The more you allow yourself to breathe the greater the outcome for your sexual pleasure.  We can also use specific types of breathing to activate our pleasure more.

Breath is really the gateway to your erotic and sexual energy.  When you utilise your breath more you will have a more felt and more embodied experience with yourself and your arousal.

When we add to our breath, movement, touch and sound we can start to access our internal erotic and sensual space in new ways.  Learning to get out of our heads and into our bodies allows us to feel into and follow the energy which opens our bodies up to receiving more.  

Focused breathing brings us to a place of mindfulness and by placing awareness internally we are able to build our pleasure potential.

When we slow down our breath with sexual touch, we become more aware and more in tune with all the subtleties that are often missed in the fast paced way of living and how we currently do pleasure.

A free 30 minute intro to some breathwork as part of 9 part audio series on Zoom on Thursday, 26th August at 9am Bris time or 6pm Brisbane time.  Just email pauline@paulineryeland.com and state which time is your preference to receive the Zoom details.

Pauline Ryeland

Pauline Ryeland, Intimacy Whisperer®, is a Sex, Libido, Relationship Coach & Educator, working with individuals & couples experiencing challenges with sex and relationships.

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