Luke La VieHi Holistic Blissers, hope you are having a wonderful day. This month we’re looking at a deeper level of our emotions. The previous months’ articles have focused on accepting our emotions, to assist in the natural healing process to take place. Like any process, you can’t start partway through and have it work properly, so jumping in here and working out the message from our feelings won’t work if you haven’t mastered acceptance.
I say this, because in my twenty years working with people and their emotions, many of the big challenges are accepting emotions in and making space. As noted previously, many things hinder this process – habits (alcohol, chocolate, etc.); avoidance (doing other things, not facing life); or simply ignoring and suppressing the emotions. None of these are effective long-term and we know that if we do not allow our emotions to flow, then stress sets in, remains and causes long-term health problems, including physical ailments.
In addition to providing colour to our life, our emotions are actually have another purpose. They tell us about things working, or not, in our life. To give an example. Let’s say someone has beliefs about being a good mother, they want to make sure that their family is happy, and they want to provide and contribute to everyone’s well-being. In balance, and if things are working well, these would be healthy and useful standards to live by. But what do we do if we find ourselves angry at the kids? Snarky with our partner? Glaring at the cat?
Certainly there are management techniques that can assist. Deep breathing can relieve the stress; muscle and relaxation strategies can ease physical symptoms. But, what if these aren’t dealing with why we are angry? We could continue meditating, breathing, praying and all the useful things, but the anger would keep coming in again and again.
Our emotions are often a message from deep in our system revealing an imbalance. For our example person, they would need to sit, allow the emotion, and then (with other steps and assistance), work out how to decipher the real reason why the anger is there. Having done this with many clients over the years, the messages can be different and point to different causes: for example, maybe the person is doing too much, and needs to set boundaries and time for self-care. Maybe they need to discuss the responsibilities of household with their kids and partner. Or maybe it’s not actually a home ‘problem’ at all – they give 110% at work, and have nothing left when they arrive back at home – the anger is revealing that they aren’t looking after themselves somewhere else, and home is a safe place to let their upset out.
Our emotions are incredibly useful at revealing what is out of balance in our life.
Luke La Vie
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