Luke La VieWhere we focus is where we create our reality. Our mind is so powerful, that it can ignore information that doesn’t agree with our beliefs and emotions. How often have we had just one thing go wrong, and we’ve said to ourselves, “This is going to be a bad day.” Perhaps it’s the kids taking time getting ready causing us to be late. Maybe someone drives erratically in traffic, cutting us off. Maybe a work colleague is in a mood.
What we often don’t realise is that plenty of things go right on the same day. We woke up alive. The sun is still shining, as it always does. The world hasn’t gone into nuclear war. We have food, or shelter, or people that love us. And much more.
The world, society, the media and the forces that want to control things, all want us to focus on the negative. This keeps us trapped, keeps us stressed and in survival mode. We struggle to take risks, to be creative, to break free if we are focused on surviving and believing the lie that “this is how life is.”
And, if we haven’t managed to learn to breathe, regulate and accept our emotions, then starting to focus on what’s working will seem very daunting. It may even seem like a massive leap of faith, because it is so far away from survival mode. Hence, why the earlier articles build up to this point. It’s hard to feel grateful if you’re struggling. Likewise it’s hard to feel and focus on the positive if you’re in a deep negative and are used to being there.
So, let’s test if this works.
At the end of your day, day 1, focus on what didn’t work. Think about things that went wrong or didn’t end up how you wanted. Think about all the negatives. See how you feel and whether this gives you motivation and hope.
At the end of your next day, day 2, write a list of all of the things you have that work in your life. Everything material may have some small aspect that may be tricky I.e. you have a car, but the back left door has a dent in it. Focus on the car, that it works, that you don’t have to walk everywhere, that you have music and air-conditioning.
And then also write down the things that worked that day. They don’t have to be perfect, they just have to be good.
If this is challenging, then find just one thing, each day, that you did well, and give yourself praise and acknowledgement for what you have done well. If you extend this, you will start to create a much better quality of life.
Luke La Vie
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