What do you think and feel when the word love is presented to you?
Maybe even heartache and pain.
Your perspective on this, just like any other word or experience, will create the emotions and also the reactions you have. Mixed with subconscious reactivity and beliefs, this can have you arriving at any point on the emotional scale!
I would have to say that one of the biggest perceptions I help clients with is around love and connection. So many feel they are not worthy, not good enough or have to be in people pleaser mode to receive love, to be worthy. So many feel unloved, disconnected, unlovable.
We are taught these points of view by our environment and generational experiences and they spill out into every area of our life without us even being conscious of it.
To change this and to create the shifts in your life you desire, especially around love and connection, there needs to be a turnaround in your perception of it.
This, is actually the first turnaround for many!
You cannot wait until the external changes for your life to be different nor can you wait until the world proves to you that you are connected and lovable before you become connected and lovable and for your life to be different.
You must empower yourself on an inner level first before the external will change.
Your reality is simply a reflection of how you perceive yourself, life, and others.
The most powerful way to begin is to create love and connection within yourself first. When you feel separated, alone, not in community, not part of anything, it can feel like you are unlovable and unworthy. The same goes if you feel unloved and alone. You may be seeing those experiences in your life as proof that it is true.
But you can create a new truth and then you will begin to see and experience a new reality emerge.
How do you create more love and connection within yourself and shift those old perceptions?
Ask better questions. Be curious. Awareness. Presence.
It is in the moment that you are confirming your old perceptions, that you have the power to change it.
When you say: “Nobody loves me!”, stop and ask yourself “Is that really true?” Find at least one person who does love you in some way or has loved you and you can then prove that perception wrong. The more you are in the awareness, the more times you can repeat this and eventually you will not have those thoughts in your day.
Same goes for any other perception you believe about why you feel unloved or disconnected.
Changing the way you feel about yourself by doing this exercise, will increase the love and connection you have within. This then will begin to reflect on the outside and life will show up to prove you have love and connection.
One thing to also remember is that the perception, or point of view, of how you wish to feel is yours. Your unique view and experience. So do not compare yourself with the version of someone else’s life and how they feel loved or connected because it will be out of alignment with you.
Your unique perception is right for you.
The truth is you are loved and connected to all. How can you stay in awareness of the perceptions you have that are not in alignment with that?
This is my magical gift that I love to help clients with. Reach out if you are ready to embody a new perspective about yourself, your relationships and your life.